Sex Question: How to Find the Right Couple’s Vibrator

Question from a listener:  I am interested in a couples vibe to be used for mutual stimulation during intercourse with my partner. We are a M/F couple. Without naming the specific brands/models I have looked into I am finding some great ratings for certain brands, while also finding very negative reviews for those same models/brands online. Some of these reviews are for the more expensive models available, citing the expensive vibrator only worked for a very short while, didn’t respond to the remote and didn’t work with the available mobile app. To make it more confusing there are some very cheap models available online that are very highly rated. Some of them are even marketed for long distance couples as opposed to a vibe to be used during intercourse. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, just looking for clarification, and want to have even more fun with my partner. Thank you.

Thank you for writing in. This sex question is one of our specialties because we really know our sex toys! There are a lot of knockoffs out there that may be more affordable but you get what you pay for, so if you want a toy that is built well and will last you a long time then be sure to go for the name brands that have a minimum of a one year warranty. All of the products we are recommending below are of that caliber.

Couple’s vibrators are usually in 3 categories: wearable vibes for her, wearable vibes for him, and smaller clitoral vibes you can use during sex. Here are our top recommendations - both for performance and quality:

Wearable vibes for her

We-Vibe We-Vibe made the first notable high quality couple’s vibrator that a vulva owner can wear during sex and even during penetration. It has two motors and one part is worn internally and vibrates around the g-spot/g-area, and then it clips around in a c-shape with the second vibrator on the clitoris. It’s designed to be lightweight, hands-free, quiet, and works great for most people. We like the entire We-Vibe line, but the Chorus is our favorite. It can be used with the remote or with an app on your phone which means it also functions as a long-distance vibrator because you can use the app to vibrate your parter from anywhere in the world as long as you have cell service. It’s great for people who like light to medium vibrations, but may not be the best for people who like really strong vibrations like what wand-style vibes offer. Note that some people find that they do need to hold the clitoral part in place with one hand to get it to the perfect spot on the clitoris. 

Runner Up: We-Vibe Sync 2

Wearables for him

Hot Octopuss Atom Plus  The Atom also has two different motors with one on the top and one on the base. This one is worn by a penis owner either just on the base of the shaft or around the shaft AND the testicles at the same time (note that the second option will not work well for penis owners with a lot of girth). The nice thing about vibrating cock rings with two motors is they give you more options for pleasure in different positions (plus add some fun stimulation for the penis owner). They work especially well during close body contact and grinding, and less so for thrusting. 

Runner Up: We-Vibe Verge 

Smaller clit vibes for her

For people who like light vibrations: Hot Octopuss DiGiT

For people who like medium vibrations: We-Vibe Touch or Magic Wand Micro

For people who like strong vibrations: We-Vibe Tango 

Some other tips: 

Give the toy three tries before you decide you don’t like it. Sometimes it takes a while to get into the groove with a new sex toy. 

Amy and April use larger clitoral toys during partnered sex and while they only work in certain positions, they get the job done and are fun to play with. Amy’s current favorite toy is the Womanizer Premium 2 which is about the size of a hand and provides powerful suction alongside vibrations. April’s favorite toy is the Magic Wand Plus which is about the size of one of our microphones and packs a TON of power. 

If you do buy any of those toys from purepleasureshop.com then be sure to use code SHAMELESSSEX for 15% off!