10 Creative Ways To Spice It Up Tonight

1.    Experiment with Giving and Receiving nights. A few rules: the giver does not get to receive on the same night as when they give. Penetrative sex is off the table. And the receiver gets to make two requests for what they’d like to receive + the giver gets to negotiation what they are willing to give.

2.    Buy your lover a gift – some clothing or jewelry. Be waiting wearing nothing but the gift when they come home from their day. Bonus points for wearing the Vesper by Crave (a vibrating necklace!)

3.     Surprise your partner by decorating your kitchen + cooking dinner from a specific theme/country. A night in Italy! A night in Thailand! A night in Peru! Mmmmm!

4.     Spend your evening playtime touching and exploring – but with no words! Speak through touch and silence.

5.     Give your partner a sensual massage, but for no reason (does not have to lead to sex). Use lots of body-safe oils all over the body. And use more than your hands to massage (forearms, breasts, get creative!)

6.     Light some candles and take a hot bubble bath together. Bonus points for adding sexy music. And chocolate. Or wine. Or waterproof vibrating sex toys.

7.     Handwrite love letters to each other on fancy stationary. Seal it up with a kiss. Take your loving words beyond texting and emails.

8.     Play the word game. Say a sensual/arousing/erotic word, and then your lover can say a word in response. Repeat as long as desired and get aroused!

9.     Learn how to say sexy phrases to each other in another language. Choose 5-6 words or phrases and have sex while only saying those words/phrases. 

10. Ravish nerve endings that don’t always get touched. Spend an evening SLOWLY kissing and nibbling on the neck and ears, eventually combining with hands/fingers stimulating their breasts, nipples, etc, from behind. Perhaps consider making a rule where ONLY these parts of the body get touched tonight (as opposed to genitals/erogenous zones).